As long as I can remember, spiders have frightened me. To the point where I could easily put myself in danger, because if such an eight-legged little creature would appear in my car, I’d probably have wound up against a tree somewhere.
I faced my fear head on, took therapy and came a long, long way.
If a spider appears in my house, or in my car for that matter, I know how to get it back outside, where it can catch all the flies it could possibly desire and we’ll never have to cross paths again.
Yesterday I had an off-day. You probably know what I’m talking about — a day when you fly off the handle. You’re ‘failing’ in one or more area’s of your life, doing things that don’t serve you, that you told yourself you wouldn’t do anymore… and there they are. Losing your patience with your kids. Binge eating like you haven’t done for ages. Walking around aimlessly all day, leaving you dead tired but feeling like you haven’t accomplished a thing.
Yep, it happens. Yesterday was such a day for me.
Or at least, that’s how it felt. In fact, it…
When I was young, there was a children’s song called ‘Ik ben toch zeker Sinterklaas niet’ in Dutch, which roughly translates as ‘I’m not Santa Claus, am I’. I think you can guess what it’s about: a father proclaiming he doesn’t have all the money in the world to buy all the presents his children put on their wish lists.
Should you want to hear it, there’s a YouTube link to it.
For so many of us, sentences like this were said often when we were young. Maybe even up till now.
Money doesn’t grow on trees.
You have to…
We’ve probably all been there: the line between two calendar years is an excellent mark to chuck the old and welcome the new. We say goodbye to habits like smoking or indulging in too much junkfood, and embrace new healthy habits.
For a week or three.
Sometimes even less.
All too often, the old behaviors and patterns find their way back into your life and no matter how hard you try to resist, you cave and you’re back where you didn’t want to be anymore.
Yup. I think we’ve alle been there too.
But it’s not your fault!
There’s really only now — what will you do with the time you’re given?
Yesterday, I was doing my 5-minute ab workout. I’ve been using an app for it for a few weeks now — ever since I got tired of having so much belly compared to the rest of me, hahaha. On the first day of using the app I noticed the time between exercises was quite good, except for the last one. All exercises were things like sit-ups, on your back or bottom, but the last one was planking. The few seconds I had to turn over, find…
I work with people who want to lose weight every day and one of the biggest hurdles they think they are facing, is that they are not motivated enough to keep working out or eat healthily.
‘I need motivation’ is a phrase I hear all of the time. People are looking for it, losing it and trying to find it again. Some want to give up entirely because they don’t feel motivated.
All of them use lack of motivation as an excuse not to get started, or to soften the blow of yet another failed attempt at eating healthy foods…
Last Friday my 5-year-old daughter had to undergo a procedure while fully anesthetized. Long story short: many and large cavities in het milk teeth. And she’s afraid of loud noises so we all thought it best if she wouldn’t notice a thing.
And yes, I know this is really nothing compared to other life or death surgeries that children have to undergo.
But for us this was big, this was real, and for me… scary.
Which I did not expect. I’m always ‘cool’, I take things as they are and then give them a positive twist. I trust that everything…
In four days, I’ll be forty years old.
I could give a hundred different meanings to that fact.
I could be scared.
I could feel like I belong with the ‘grown ups’ now. That I should do something different with my hair, my clothes.
That I should fit to and adapt to my age, whatever that may look like. Because feeling ‘young’ is probably out of the question from now on.
There’s this sort of ‘social fascination’ with being young (and beautiful, and slim). ‘People’ tell us that we’re supposed to look like XYZ and that’s what we see all…
We live in a very, very noisy world. I’m not just talking about the sounds in our environments, but also the brain chatter in our minds. Sometimes the outer world even echoes in our inner world — stories that we tell ourselves about how we should look, feel and behave, what we should own, how we should be, everything.
Constant chatter, chatter, chatter.
And though meditation (quieting the mind) is a practice more and more people commit to, it’s still something most people seldom use — especially when life kicks in with all kinds of distractions and challenges.
When I was a performing arts student, in my first year, one of my best friends decided to put on a show. She gathered me, a few classmates of hers and and a bunch of mine, together and we got to work.
She has always been a visionary — an artistic talent I admire and love to work with; I think I knew that as soon as she took the reigns and started directing, staging and choreographing for that play.
The very first rehearsal, she set a ground rule that I’ll never forget:
Whatever I ask of you, do it…