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Sabotaging yourself is easy
But so is the solution
We often have goals. Things we want to change. We’d like to quit smoking, go to the gym more often, lose a couple of pounds, be in touch with our family more…
Yet to actually DO these things, is a whole other story. It’s not that easy to leave the cigarettes, or the junkfood, or the comfort of our own home in exchange for a run in cold, windy weather during fall and winter.
And it doesn’t seem to matter that you want it really badly, that you know how much good it would do you, how much better you’d feel. Too often, you simply don’t do it.
And when you fail in your attempt, if you don’t follow through on your resolution for the umpteenth time, you’re likely to get mad at yourself. You’ll feel disappointed and maybe even lose all hopes of ever changing this thing. You don’t feel trustworthy, you feel weak, you feel awful about yourself. You feel like you’re sabotaging yourself — and you are right. You are sabotaging yourself.
But what if I told you that all of this is not your fault?
You see, when it comes to habits — and changing them — we think of this proces from a left brain, analytical stance. We want to think our way to a new habit, we think we’ll get there with willpower and reason, when in fact you hardly need any of that.
